Howdy y’all! Hey Lexi! is back!!! 😊
I hope you all had a wonderful Holiday Season filled with warmth and love. I know my Holidays were AWESOME! We had SO much fun with our Italian Christmas and then we just laid low for New Year’s Eve this year as my husband was preparing for his knee surgery. Luckily all went well and now we are on the long road to recovery! WOOHOO!!! I’m SO proud of him, he’s really doing an awesome job, and keeping his spirits up to boot! 😊
Well as I walk from one year into another, I’m like most of you, I start thinking about goals, and what I want to accomplish in the New Year. This year I have a lot of goals, for myself and my business; but I’m also taking care of my husband, my toddler, an aging dog, and myself…so my perspective has come back to self-care. After all, you can’t give to others what you don’t have, and if you’re not spending some time on yourself by yourself that’s a whole lot of nothing!
I heard a guest on the Business Boutique, by Christy Wright, say that “self-care is more than just getting your nails done.” MAN! That really struck a chord with me…I often think of just regular care and maintenance as “self-care,” but that is so not true. So, this month I thought we’d stop, and take a moment for ourselves to really dig into what self-care is and some ideas I’m going to start implementing in my own life right now!
WHAT IS SELF-CARE?
According to the Oxford Dictionaries Self-Care is:
The practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
I believe this applies to every area of our lives, not just our physical and mental health. There are several actions we take everyday that can improve or impede our health physically, mentally, emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and financially. I believe that true self-care balances all these areas and brings them into harmony.
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SELF-CARE AND MANITENANCE?
I used to think that anything I did to maintain my body, and mind was self-care. For example, taking showers, shaving, getting my nails done, or reading for knowledge on self-improvement. Not that those things aren’t caring for myself, but I have learned that it is more about the attitude with which I do these activities that determines whether I am taking care of myself, or not.
If I am spending a half hour trying to meditate and I hate it…that’s not self-care. If I’m putting myself in debt trying to get my nails done while knowing I’m trying to get out of debt…that’s not self-care either. Anything that I’m having to force myself to do…even if they are good activities, is not taking care of myself.
Sometimes I find myself trying to force myself to take a shower when all I really want to do is take a nap or go to bed early. If I’m really practicing self-care, I can ask myself what would make me feel better right now, and then do that thing. A couple of good questions to ask yourself when trying to figure out your own self-care are “what do I LOVE doing?” and “What would make me feel cared for right now?”
I really liked what this article had to say on this subject, check it out below.
SELF-CARE GOALS FOR 2020
Here is a list of some of my own personal self-care goals for 2020:
- Do something nice for myself once a week
- Start Journaling and Writing again at least once per week
- Read for Knowledge and Leisure
- Practice Meditation at least 15 Minutes per week
- Have 12 going out dates with my Husband
- Spend time with my daughter one on one
- Spend time with friends doing fun activities
- Get Organized, Personally and Professionally
- Use all my fun money on myself, and not feel guilty!
- Give to Charities and Ministries that Support Causes I believe in
Well I hope this has been both eye-opening and thought provoking as we jump start this New Year with our goals. I have a lot of new and exciting topics to discuss with you in the coming months so be sure to tune in next month as we start a new leg of our journey into motherhood! I look forward to learning and growing alongside you this year friends!
P.S If you’re a new mom and looking for a way to establish your self-care again, here’s my post on Finding your New Normal, and don’t forget about your honey check out Finding your New Relationship Normal as well!
Hey Lexi! Signing Off!
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